only way i could force mobile to use mobile template was to add either this:
/index.php?ui=iphone
or this:
/index.php?device=iphone
but that only works if someone types that in the mobile browser, but we all know that's not practical or convenient.
i tried to force one of those url's in the joomla mobile settings where there is a force homepage setting, but i couldn't just type a url in there. i had to choose a menu item from the form field below.
but then another issue, can't select every menu item in that form field for some reason. some are selectable, some are not.
i tried creating a home menu item with the forced url, but couldn't select it. i could select a different menu item to an inner page though, and that's my current, ugly work-around. now people will go to mobile template on a mobile, but it has to be an inner page. the home menu item in mobile and also the top logo both have the forced mobile url in order to go home. if the forced url wasn't there, the mobile device would go to homepage but on desktop template.
so basically, buggyness all around.
if someone could tell me why, and how to fix it, that would be great.